Ranchi: Twelve-year-old Shifa prefers to make the camera die and microphone on mute during the online class.
Even after the warning repeatedly by his teacher and his parents, he refused to improve the way and even threatened to skip food if he was examined more about this problem.
Fourteen-year-old Arushi (name changed), a student who diligently two years ago, lost interest in his studies and began performing poorly in his online exam.
His parents initially blamed him with mere laziness but when they saw that he lost interest in almost everything he enjoyed did they decided to consult a child psychologist.
Although for a lay this may seem like a child overreacing because trivial problems or just asking attention, experts show that such behavior is common if a child feels humiliated.
Dr.
Madhumita Bhattacharya, Assistant Professor of Clinical Psychology at the Central Psychiatry Institute (CIP), “I recently dealt with a child who felt neglected in his online class because the teacher did not ask him to answer the question asked the last.
All students.
Although not always Maybe for a teacher to deal individually with every student when teaching a class 50+ students, children who feel neglected can change to attend the class.
“He warned that the humiliation faced at a young age of leaving a lifelong scar.
“Unlike physical scars, this scar is still invisible and unless handled carefully, they can be the cause of worries,” he said.
Professor Associate Psychiatry in CIP, Dr.
Nishant Goyal, said that of 75% of patients who arrived at the OPD had a history of insults and their percentage even more in terms of teenagers.
When asked why the children were offended by things that seemed small, Dr.
Goyal said, “Today’s children are more aware of their rights but awareness about their very low responsibilities.
Previously, children were almost not offended Scolded by their teacher.
In today’s today, if a child feels neglected, he can disrupt his growth.
“As a coping mechanism, Dr.
Bhattacharya said parents need to be vigilant and involve their children in activities that help them be organized.
“Give them household jobs such as sorting out equipment or arranging their closets and books.
Praying also helps in relieving stress, just like taking any sport,” he added.
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Joseph Marianus Kuju, who is the Director of the Xavier Institute of Social Service, feels that the problems triggered by humiliation are not limited to adolescents.
“Insult has an impact on the performance of professionals who work too and those who insult others are aware of the negative impact of their words in others.
This attitude needs to change,” he said.
Bachelor Fulbright and Director of the Center for Behavior and Cognitive Sciences Dr.
Anant Kumar believes that one of the most vital ways to deal with insults is to discuss it.
“We tend to hide, maybe because of fear of further humiliation, but there must be a platform where everyone is open to be discussed.
As a community, we must try to stop this poison culture where people in a strong position confirm their authority by humbling subordinates They and this also applies to teacher-student relationships, “he added.