The story: There are so many things to stay between couples but my husband can be very annoying like that.
Every time we discuss anything, he goes and tells all his mother even when he doesn’t need to know it.
Be it what I plan for his mother’s gift on his birthday or simple conversation we have around the trip, I meet my friends, our finances …
he doesn’t understand good wisdom.
It is like I have a peeping hole forced down the door of my room, my wedding life.
I have drawn a line with my parents so what’s the problem? It was very frustrating because even when I tried to make it understand this, he just didn’t get it.
His mother had to be his closest friend but he wasn’t mine and I didn’t want to force it to me!
The story: My mother is my trust person and she has been with me through thick and thin.
I always say everything and he has become that my friend always wants.
But my wife had some major problems with it.
So what if I tell and discuss everything with my mother? In his family, there is a different atmosphere, very different rules.
They keep privacy on the base but we are an open house where we do everything together! So what is so difficult to understand? We continue to scramble this and now it has become a major issue in our marriage.
Expert advice by Mrs.
Hina Beg, Solutions Therapist: This is a very common reason why families have stress bonds.
There are both girls and men who share everything with their mother.
In relation, this but can be excessive, especially if a new relationship.
When the man enters and shares everything is discussed with his mother then it might create a situation that has the power to destroy or make a bond.
Let’s dive a little into what is negative, the positive side of it and how to deal with it.
Negative side
A little thought maybe from the side of his mother.
The negative side of this is clear.
Trust and privacy of couples needs and expect in an unusual way.
Constant distribution can weaken the trust between the girl and the child.
This can cause anger, a sense of insecurity, frustration, and turn off arguments, complaints, miscommunication etc.
at times, this can also cause the relationship into a position where the girl even questioned itself.
If this situation is not handled with the maturity of togetherness is acid and tense.
Positive side
The positive side requires a broader understanding.
Use the communication channel for yourself.
This can help strengthen the bond between you and your partner and you and your mother-in-law.
The fact that he communicates everything must also answer your question about how to handle or what to do in this new home regarding certain customs, rituals or situations.
Creativity and patience will make your life easier.
The solution to have a patient peaceful atmosphere.
You can try a few things.
Not every solution fits everyone.
Observing how you know everything together? What happened after it was distributed? For a month did not complain, say anything sick about anyone only invested your time in sharing well, positive and happy conversations.
Build your relationship with love and laughter.
Don’t invest your time to reflect on what is shared and what doesn’t.
Appreciate your mother-in-law, which is important.
Slowly with time, you will see that not everything together.
Being there with him for yourself.
Your mind to build a bond with love will make you become a happier person.
Mother’s side
It’s natural that most mothers want to know what happens in (or daughter) their children’s lives, both age.
Maybe he left and shares because he grew up like that and it was okay for him.
The mother wants to make sure she is not hurt by anyone.
Maybe he is very emotional.
He might have been betrayed before.
He might want your relationship to be good and durable then it might just listen and advise him.
It can also be possible that it might be difficult for you because of his own experience.
He may not be rewarded before.
So, see the dynamics of one of the needs to explore what can be done.
A marriage counselor, trusted friend or general family member for the second might be able to help.
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